Monday, September 10, 2018

Finding Balance in the Extremes Of Cancer

A few thoughts and simple methods for finding a way to get back to the center of a life that includes all the emotions


PUBLISHED September 10, 2018

Martha lives in Illinois and was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in January 2015. She has a husband and three children, ranging in age from 12 to 18, a dog and a lizard.
When I was growing up, my mom forbade skateboards, but she did allow unrestricted use of the balance board that sat at the edge of our garage. A balance board, if you don't know, can look like a skateboard without wheels that is balanced – by the user –  on a can-shaped roller. It is difficult to stay steady in the center for any length of time.

While I've compared living with cancer to a high-stakes walk on a balance beam, where difficulties lay in wait along either side, at almost four years into a metastatic breast cancer diagnosis, I'd say it's more accurately a life lived on a balance board. Staying centered most of the time is hard work when there's a life to live that's interrupted by the steady, relentless and difficult parade of appointments, scans, treatments and deaths (113 a day in the US alone).

Like stepping onto a rolling, unsteady piece of plywood, life with cancer is often uncontrollable swinging between opposite extremes, even as you use all your available strength to find the center.




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