When all the defenses we put up have fallen you experience "crash and burn", the stage of acceptance that hurts the most but can heal you the best.
BY Kathy Latour
PUBLISHED January 26, 2020
Kathy LaTour is a breast cancer survivor, author of The Breast Cancer Companion and co-founder of CURE magazine. While cancer did not take her life, she has given it willingly to educate, empower and enlighten the newly diagnosed and those who care for them.
Three years after my diagnosis, I hit what my support group identified as Crash and Burn— that wonderful time when all the defenses against what we have been through seem to crack, and all the pain we have been trying not to feel comes crashing through.It’s a violent image – crash and burn – but I have come to embrace it as the necessary point for all of us to begin . . . well, something. A new view of life, feeling the pain they have been stuffing, or, for some, feeling anything at all.
For me the significance of this time is clear— it was for me the summer when I finally realized that I had to face the idea I might die. I have come to believe that it’s a point we all have to get to in order to find that new way of living that is life after cancer.