Saturday, April 7, 2018

Breast Cancer Memoirs: A Conversation With My Daughter

The memories formed during a bout with breast cancer can be both painful and challenging. This article shares openly about a daughter's feelings for her mother as she struggled to fight cancer.


PUBLISHED April 07, 2018

Bonnie Annis is a breast cancer survivor, diagnosed in 2014 with stage 2b invasive ductal carcinoma with metastasis to the lymph nodes. She is an avid photographer, freelance writer/blogger, wife, mother and grandmother.

As the fourth anniversary of my breast cancer surgery approaches, I sat down with my youngest daughter for a conversation. I wanted to hear her thoughts and feelings as she'd watched me in my fight against cancer.

My youngest daughter, Jamie, is 30 years old. She's a very kind and caring individual with a heart for people, but sometimes, when it comes to family, she becomes overprotective. Just like a mother bear protecting her cubs, she would do anything to help keep her loved ones safe. Though she has a protective nature, she is often introspective. She rarely shares her deepest thoughts, but keeps them tucked safely under her heart. That's one reason I wanted to hear from her as we get ready to celebrate another major milestone along my journey.

When we sat down to talk, I asked if she would share how she felt the day I was diagnosed with breast cancer. At first, she didn't want to open up. I could tell by watching her face that this was a touchy subject, but as I gave her the freedom to say whatever she chose to share, this is what she said: "The day I got the news that you had cancer, I felt the breath leave my body. One of my worst fears was staring me in the face – the possibility of losing you. My mind started to race, and I felt like I didn't know which way was up and which way was down. All I could do was stare.


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